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Domestic Abuse

Domestic abuse is: "Any incident of controlling, coercive, threatening behavior, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are, or have been intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality".

Sometimes, children who live with domestic abuse can experience the following:

  • Fear and helplessness, guilt, shame, isolation
  • Blaming the abuser or trying to stop them
  • Blaming the victim for not leaving or standing up to the abuser
  • Getting hurt from trying to intervene
  • Stress from trying to protect brothers and sisters
  • Not wanting to bring friends home
  • Trying to get help for the victim
  • Wishing someone would help or wishing everyone would stop interfering
  • Being involved with police or social services
  • Throwing themselves into school, college or work
  • Missing school, college, staying home to protect the victim

If you are experiencing or seeing domestic violence and abuse, remember the abuser is completely responsible for the abuse – you, your brothers and sisters, and the parent being abused are not to blame

You don’t have to deal with what is happening alone, there are people who can help you cope with what is going on.

Child to parent violence
Sometimes children can be violent towards their parents.
Teenagers may threaten, name call, humiliate, threaten to harm themselves or others, damage property, or be violent towards their parents/carers.  
This is not ok, and a family needs help to make this stop. If you think you or a sibling is being abusive towards your parents/carers then talk to someone you trust to get support.

Worried About A Child or Friend or Do You Need Help?

Children’s Reception Team
(IOW Social Care)

Phone Number: 0300 300 0117. Call any time day or night

Report your concerns about yourself, a child or friend to Children’s Reception Team (IOW Social Care)


If there is immediate danger call 999

Phone Number: 0808 800 5000 or if you are 18 or under call 0800 11 11

A leading children's charity fighting to end child abuse in the UK, Channel Islands and Isle of Man. They help children who have been abused to rebuild their lives, protect those at risk, and find the best ways of preventing abuse from ever happening.

Phone Number: 0800 11 11

A free, private and confidential service where you can be you. Whatever your worry, whenever you need help, however you want to get in touch. We're here for you online, on the phone, anytime.

The following organisations can also help you and give you free confidential advice:

A website to help children and young people to understand domestic abuse and how to take positive action if it’s happening to you.

Phone Number: 0808 2000 247 (FREE) Call any time day or night

Provide support to those who have experienced violence and abuse. Run specialist services to help survivor’s access safety and rebuild their lives.

Phone Number: 0808 2000 247 (FREE) Call any time day or night

This helpline can give support, help and information over the telephone if you or someone you know is experiencing abuse and may need help and support

Phone Number: 0808 2000 247 (FREE) Call any time day or night

This national charity is working to end domestic abuse against women and children.

Phone Number: 116 123 (Free) or email jo@samaritans.org

They provide a safe place to talk anytime about whatever’s getting to you. You don’t have to be suicidal.