Teenage Relationships

If you are in a relationship with someone, you should feel loved, safe, respected and free to be yourself. There are different forms of abuse, but if your relationship leaves you feeling scared, intimidated or controlled then you are in an abusive relationship. Abuse is not normal and never ok.

Many teenagers experience warm, respectful, caring and fulfilling relationships with each other. Sadly, some children need safeguarding since the relationships they are involved in are abusive in some way, or they are being exploited by the other person.

Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone regardless of gender or sexuality and of any age (including teenagers) and take many forms, but remember you don’t have to be hit to be abused

Emotional, psychological and financial control are also very serious forms of domestic abuse. Domestic violence and abuse often escalates over time – what starts as verbal and emotional abuse can turn into physical violence.

The legal age to have sex in England is 16 years old. Consent is really about respect for people. It is about agreeing, giving permission or saying yes to sex. People must always feel they are able to say 'yes',' no' or 'stop' and be listened to in their relationships.

The 'Cup Of Tea' clip explores consent in an engaging way.

A transcript of the Tea Consent video can be found here

Am I being abused?

  • Is your partner very jealous and possessive of you?
  • Does your partner get angry when you want to spend time with your friends or demands that you spend all your time with them?
  • Does your partner check your phone, Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter?
  • Does your partner try to get you to defriend people on Facebook, take down your photos or stop you messaging your friends?
  • Are they always calling, texting or messaging you to check where you are and who you are with?
  • Do they tell you what to wear or how to do your hair?
  • Does your partner laugh at you or put you down in front of other people
  • Does your partner get aggressive? Do they hit, shove, slap or kick you?
  • Does your partner threaten to harm you – or themselves if you try to leave them?
  • Does your partner call you names?
  • Does your partner pressure you to have sex when you don’t want to (without consent), telling you that “everyone else is doing it” or that you would do it “if you really loved them”
  • Does your partner pressure you to send sexual texts and images of yourself
  • Does your partner share any sexual texts and images of you with their friends

If you can answer yes to any of the above, then you are being abused.

If you are frightened of your partner, or feel that you have to change your behaviour because you are scared of their reaction, you are being abused.

Worried About A Child or Friend or Do You Need Help?

Children’s Reception Team
(IOW Social Care)

Phone Number: 0300 300 0117. Call any time day or night

Report your concerns about yourself, a child or friend to Children’s Reception Team (IOW Social Care)

Police

If there is immediate danger call 999

Phone Number: 0808 800 5000 or if you are 18 or under call 0800 11 11

A leading children's charity fighting to end child abuse in the UK, Channel Islands and Isle of Man. They help children who have been abused to rebuild their lives, protect those at risk, and find the best ways of preventing abuse from ever happening.

Phone Number: 0800 11 11

A free, private and confidential service where you can be you. Whatever your worry, whenever you need help, however you want to get in touch. We're here for you online, on the phone, anytime.

The following organisations can also help you and give you free confidential advice:

A website to help children and young people to understand domestic abuse and how to take positive action if it’s happening to you.

Phone Number: 0808 2000 247 (FREE) Call any time day or night

Provide support to those who have experienced violence and abuse. Run specialist services to help survivor’s access safety and rebuild their lives.

Phone Number: 0808 2000 247 (FREE) Call any time day or night

This helpline can give support, help and information over the telephone if you or someone you know is experiencing abuse and may need help and support

Phone Number: 0808 2000 247 (FREE) Call any time day or night

This national charity is working to end domestic abuse against women and children.

Phone Number: 116 123 (Free) or email jo@samaritans.org

They provide a safe place to talk anytime about whatever’s getting to you. You don’t have to be suicidal.